When I think of my childhood and my youth I think of happiness and security. I think of a loving family and a bookstore surrounded by books and stories. I was lucky: my parents were booksellers and I grew up among thousands of titles and authors, short stories, novels and coffee.
That is the beautiful part of my story.
But there is a part that was not so pleasant. The one at the school where some nuns made my life impossible, perhaps because I was
I think about me as a girl trying to fit in, to be normal, to align herself in order to be accepted. Someone’s worried, thankfully only for a while, about what other people would say. A teenager who never accepted those extra pounds and did not madly love herself when looking at the mirror.
Trying to fit in and that dissatisfaction and insecurity didn’t help me much in life.
It was later over the years and experiences when I learned to love myself, I did not care what others were saying or thinking and I started to show up to the world for the simple fact that I knew that I have something awesome to share to others.
So I want to talk about how I live my life today, and although I do not intend to tell you how you should live yours, I want to give you some ideas that may be of your interest.
- Be happy with what you have
Pay attention to the simple things: a sunset, a squirrel climbing a tree, a hug from someone you love.
Make peace with the present; listen to the wind, read and enjoy a good book. Get back to the simple and quiet life at home instead of looking for 100 different plans to make and “escape” from your reality.
- Treat yourself with love
You must be kind to yourself. Sometimes you set very high and even unattainable goals and failing to achieve them will generate guilt and resentment.
How you treat yourself will influence how others treat you.
Treat yourself gently. Be patient and accept your shadow; hug her; don’t judge yourself.
- Be true to yourself and your principles
Learn to say “NO” when you feel that doing what is asked is against your principles. There is no need to fit in and do things just to fit in. “No” is one of the most important words for your self-care and peace of mind.
- Turn obstacles into opportunities
In all aspects of your life, such as your health, your career or your relationships, you will encounter difficulties and obstacles. At some point in your life, something unexpected and maybe even traumatic will happen to you. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, look for the lesson, learn, find the message in each situation. Instead of asking “why is this happening to me? Better ask: “why is it happening to me?” What do I have to learn here?
- Take care of and nurture your relationships:
Be very aware of the quality of the relationships you have. Choose very well the people whom you are surrounded by. Be with people who give meaning to your life. In addition to choosing your friends well, take care of your relationships, build, build from presence and love. Friends, colleagues, family … Even your pets! Create a strong connection from the heart and find meaning in your life through your relationships.
- Actively belongs to a community
We are not alone in this world. We are part of a society, a neighbourhood, a club or a church. The community is very important to our development as human beings. Even more important is finding out how you can serve your community. Surely there is something you can do: volunteer work, teach, help a neighbour, collaborate with a noble cause. You can help even by not participating in gossip or gossip. There is no “I” or “You” There is a We and we are all ONE!
- Do not get carried away by what other people will say
The moment what others say or think about you is no longer important, you find your true value and begin to operate from your own identity. You stop being the person that others want you to be and you start to be yourself and shine your own light.
Stop accommodating your principles and values to fit into a group of “friends.” Stop being a stranger in your own story or to prove to everyone that you are worth it. Recognise your worth and show yourself as you are. You are enough! You are very valuable! And you deserve to receive love from others just because you are the person you are. So give a Fx by what others say and live Your Life as you wish.
- Don’t postpone your life
We live in a very fast-paced world and we leave little space to enjoy our lives, take a breath, rest, and take care of ourselves.
Play again that instrument you used to play, or practice your favourite sport, write, or read! Do what you love and do it NOW!
The problem with this busy and fast-paced life is that little by little it has taken away the activities that we enjoy doing the most. Stop putting off your life. Live it today! Here! Now!
- Detach and Let go.
Especially what bothers you the most.
There are things that we cannot fight: The weather, illnesses, the death of loved ones, the passage of time … Recognize that these circumstances are part of your life and you have to embrace and accept them from love. They are unavoidable! Become friends with your circumstances and let them go. Do not identify with them or with the negative emotions that they awaken in you. You are not your circumstances. You are much more than them. Observe them and embrace them with love.
- Practice a healthy life
Your body is the vehicle that will help you navigate this life. It is very important that you take care of it.
Exercise, eat healthy, avoid processed foods and excess sugar. Take deep breaths several times a day, meditate, laugh, enjoy, walk outside, go to a forest, hug a tree. Walk barefoot on the grass, disconnect from your phone and social networks at least once a month, sleep more than 7 hours every night, drink at least two litters of water, avoid fluoride, drink a glass of water with a tablespoon of Apple cider vinegar on an empty stomach, drink green juices, protect yourself from solar radiation … Anyway, there are a thousand ways to live a healthy life. What are your favourites?
If you want to know more about living a purposeful life and getting healthier and happier, book a free call with me and I will tell you about my signature program that can certainly help you to reconnect with your body, mind and soul so you can start shining your light into the world.